I am so thrilled to be on this panel at BlogHer. And not just because I somehow got comped a bunch of free clothes from Gap, which was a lovely treat, more on that later (with photos), but first, because I believe in the importance of openly discussing sexuality and this happens to be the only sexuality panel at BlogHer and next, because I can’t wait to see Twanna again, and meet AV Flox, who I’ve admired from afar forever, as well as all the other fabulous panelists.

Here’s the description of the panel and panelists:

Bringing Sex Out of the Closet

Did you take sex ed in high school? Did your parents give you “the talk” when you were a kid? You’re an adult now, and it’s time to take matters into your own hands. (Sometimes literally!) Being a better businesswoman, partner and mother is easier when you have an emotionally healthy sex life. This session discusses how to engage the Internet to its fullest potential to meet your sexual needs.

Join moderator Twanna Hines, who blogs at FunkyBrownChick.com; AV Flox, who writes at Sex and the 405; Genia Stevens, who produces Sister Talk Radio; Mominatrix sex advice columnist, Kristen Chase; and BDSM blogger Tess Danesi, who blogs at Urban Gypsy, for a rousing and frank discussion about sex for smart women who want to improve their lives. Takeaways include but are not limited to:

How can I safely and/or anonymously experiment with my sexual identity online?
Where are the best Web resources for sexual health information?
Can the Internet save my relationship?

If you’re going to be at BlogHer don’t miss this panel.  It’s runs from  2:45 to 4:00 on Friday afternoon.

Now, back to the Gap and those photos.

Before:

That’s how I looked before, minus the deranged look (I hope) and Cody; tempted as I was to take him, I left him home.  It’s my usual subtle statement.  Nothing in your face about me, oh no.

And now, after Gap and Tami, personal shopper extraordinaire, worked their magic.

Grey trousers, a three quarter sleeve dolman tee in new vineyard with a lace trimmed white cami underneath, a fun studded belt and a grey blazer.  I guess this is a tad more subtle than my usual outfit.  Maybe I can be subtle and sexy at the same time. Maybe, I’m not totally convinced but I will say, these pants are beyond comfortable.  And in ankle length, with 4 inch heels, they’re perfect.  Shut up.

Next look, which is remarkably similar to the first and even more so since I forgot to swap the blazer for the sweater and my the time I realized it I was already undressed.

Note to all you non-believers:  Jeans!  Long and lean jeans.  Oh, the irony.  Yes, the tees are the same color, but what can I say, I love this color, this one is V neck and short sleeved, good for me since I’m always so hot, and it goes with the sweater I forgot to put on.  It’s all in the details.  Different studded belt.  The universe is mocking me by giving me studs on my belts rather than in my bed.  Come on, universe, I’ll play nice if you pony up a hot stud or two.  And a silver bag, perfect to carry Cody in.  Why can’t dogs come to BlogHer?  I’m already having anxiety attacks about leaving him with my teenager, who reallyreallyreally wanted a dog and was going to do everything for him (apparently as long as it’s past her early AM wake up time of noon and none of her friends have plans and her boyfriend isn’t around). Warning to those of you with even the most responsible of teenager – do not get them a dog unless you want a dog.

Oh and that grey and purple striped sweater I mentioned.

Back to being all subtle again. Hopefully, this won’t fuck up all Gap’s years of carefully defining their brand but it gonna take more than one trip to the Gap to change this girl.

Thank you Gap for the experience.  And thank you Tami, you were so amazing and so much fun to work with; now go out and make your own website, you need to be a personal shopper!

(cross posted from Urban Gypsy)